How we express love for someone can be as unique as we are. Some of us are physically affectionate, some are verbally affirming. Some reveal their love through thoughtfulness and small acts of kindness and care throughout the day. Some may rarely communicate it, but then say or do something profound every once in a while. Some may even seem to not show it at all.
Misunderstandings and frustrations can build up within a relationship if there is a perception that love is not being demonstrated in a way that is expected. How we give love is one important part of a relationship, but what we need in return to feel cherished and special, is another. The connections we make with someone need to include recognition of, and appreciation for, the way they manifest love. Knowing what makes your significant other feel the most valued — and being able to share that with them — is one of the best gifts you can give. It infuses reciprocity into our lives because love has the ability to be felt and reflected back on us even when we’re giving it to others.
If a relationship is to grow, be healthy and strong, there has to be an understanding of how differently we experience love and that no one particular way is the right way. It’s said that you shouldn’t wait to tell someone you love them, but perhaps more importantly, you shouldn’t wait to find out how best you can love them, because if you’ve found the right person, there will never be enough time to show it.
There is also immense strength to be found in knowing yourself. You’re able to weave love into your existence because you understand how best you want your heart to be treated. Taking time to understand how you embody love will put you in a better position to recognize when you’re receiving it — and when you’re not. Cultivate a relationship with yourself first because then you’ll be able to tell your soulmate what you need when they ask.
What makes you feel valued and loved in a relationship? How do you express your love for yourself and others?
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