Without knowing it, some people have been a source of strength and helped turn a difficult day into a bearable one by showing simple, thoughtful kindness. It can often be overlooked and not considered as having much impact — but kindness is powerful.
If you’ve been following TN for a while or have seen it on my social media, you may know that my husband was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer and is about to start various treatments, including surgery on December 3rd, to beat it.
Cancer is a very frightening thing to have to face, and without the random acts of kindness from strangers or the supportive care of family, friends and the medical team around us, I don’t think we would be feeling as ready to face it as we do now.
If you assume that your thoughtful message, blog comment, Tweet, GoFundMe donation, smile, listening ear or uplifting thoughts won’t do much, isn’t enough or won’t make a difference, I want you to know that it does. And no matter how close my husband or I get to feeling overwhelmed, somehow, inexplicably, those beautiful expressions of compassion come at just the right time and give us a soulful lift that can, and has, turned hopelessness around.
There is a very strong, protective sense of community amongst those who have or are fighting cancer (and the people who help treat them) and it is nothing short of inspirational. I should add that it isn’t just acts of kindness from humans, but animals too. Spencer, the therapy dog who is completely blind and is assigned to the radiotherapy centre that we will be going to in the New Year, sat with my husband for a bit because he sensed he was nervous about his first ever time being there to meet the doctors who will be giving him his radiotherapy. As reality was setting in and my husband was beginning to get emotional, along came Spencer to soothe and calm.
I don’t really know where exactly I’m going with this post, but I think as I review it before I hit the publish button, it occurs to me that this is my love letter to kindness and to those of you who walk through life trying to be as considerate and compassionate as possible. I want to give my thanks to you because you really do make some of the darkest times brighter. Thank you.
How do you show kindness to others? Has anyone ever done something thoughtful for you that helped you?
Supporting A Friend Who Has Cancer via Cancer.Net