Success should be defined by a set of self-identified goals that help us create our own, individual growth and forward momentum. If we measure our life’s accomplishments against those of other people, not only do we set ourselves up for failure, we rob ourselves of the ability to understand our own value.
And knowing our own value is key to establishing a sense of happiness and certainty about ourselves — something that we can carry with us and use when we face personal challenges or difficulties. How we choose to characterize it doesn’t need to be justified or explained to anyone else — unless their support is integral to our wellbeing — it does, however, need to be something that we fully understand about ourselves.
Knowing what we need from life, and what gives us a sense of purpose and drive is a life skill that we can tap into whenever needed. It’s also a life skill that isn’t easy to learn or maintain, so don’t be too hard on yourself if you feel like you are floundering or directionless.
Maybe success, in its most elementary form, is just about navigating the ebb and flow of life, and learning enough from those highs and lows, to help us take our next step. Maybe that’s an oversimplification, but I think it’s a good place to start.
Success in life is not linear. Growth and learning are never final, and our transformation through all of this is not guaranteed, but the experiences we have along the way and the value that adds to our existence is never wasted.
How do you define success?