Emotional healing can be rest, it can be careful reflection. It can be self-care, confrontation, silence, therapy, exercise and many other things. It’s as individual as we are. There’s no right way to do it, no set timeframe, it’s not even linear. How we piece ourselves back together looks and feels different for everyone — but healing is a quiet teacher that will show us the way forward.
Those who are around someone who is healing, if you can, be patient with them. They may be short-tempered, emotional, distant or withdrawn. They can be clingy, insecure, rowdy or forthright — they will express their pain in a number of different ways. Celebrate their progress, remind them of how far they’ve come and respect the space they’ve created in order to soothe the parts of them that need the greatest of care.
Be kind to yourself and others, always.
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Yes, it’s key to be patient with others. Their reactions/actions could be because they’re not in a good place. Thanks for the reminder.
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So true — our reactions may be to something else entirely and just a symptom of the pain. Thanks for the comment!
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This is a great reminder of the importance of being patient. None of us know what other people are dealing with. Thank you!
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100%! I always try to remeber that but definitely need the reminder of that as it can be so easy to fall back on assumptions. Thanks for reading!
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I really enjoyed this!! I find shorter posts like this much more enjoyable than really long posts. Thanks for sharing x
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Thank you! Sometimes when I write my poems, which genrally are shorter, I always think there should be more but I realize that what needs to be said doesn’t always have to be lengthy. Thanks for reading!
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“Listen carefully what your healing quietly teaching you” —I love this✨👏🏾
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Thank you! I’m so glad you liked it!
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Yes! Healing is a process. Thanks for reminding us to be patient with ourselves and others. Many times, when someone is managing their own pain, it’s hard for them to be there for others. Show compassion and understand we are each on a journey to healing.
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I agree — we need more compassion and understanding that other people are all healing from something and they may sometimes be reacting or responding from a place of pain. Kindness is a powerful form of love and strength. We must do out best to share it (with ourselves and those around us).
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I definitely agree that we should be kind to ourselves and others always. We all have our own Journey to make!
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So true — and we never know exactly what that journey has been like for other people. Thank you so much for reading!
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Emotional healing is so vital for everyone! Having that time out to help heal your traumas. Love all the ideas you’ve listed whether it’s self care, therapy or just some time in your solitude.
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I agree 100%. So often emotional healing can be put aside or not given the time it needs, but it’s so vital to our overall wellbeing. Thanks so much for reading!
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Well said! We all heal in our own time and our own way. Having the support and patience of those closest to us, helps to further the healing process and gives us the strength we need to continue to heal.
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Thank you! I think sometimes peolple get caught up in thingking that their healing (or the healing of others) should be done on a specific timeline. We will often revisit what we need to heal from because it is a journey. Thanks for reading!
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This is a lovely reminder, so full of self-healing! All healing tells us something about what we are healing from, but we often have to listen to the lesson to heal beautifully and fully.
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I love how you’ve expanded on this — healing beautifully and fully reminds me of the Japansese art of repairing broken pottery (I think it’s called Kintsugi) with powdered gold. The repair adds to the beauty and meaning of the piece. Thank you so much for reading!
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Good post. Healing also teach us something about life. Good sharing.
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You’re 100% right — we can learn so much from the good as well as the things we need to heal from. Thank you so much for stopping by!
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Very well written, loved this line- “healing is a quiet teacher that will show us the way forward” I completely believe in it. Thanks for sharing.
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I’m so glad this resonnated — thank you so much for taking the time to read it!
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I love this post so much! Emotional healing is something very hard. It could be the little things that attack us the most. Who knows. I think we should always be careful with whatever we say to other people. Being kind to others and to ourselves is important. Let’s not forget a positive mindset that is always helpful.
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I agree with you — what we say to others can have a real impact and so we should always be mindful that everyone is healing from something. Thanks so much for reading!
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It’s really hard to always be kind, we have our own fears and often others can trigger us and we’ll raise our voice. I think it’s important to realize and say sorry when it happens, and to remind ourselves and others that we are human and that mistakes can happen, even in good faith or because an event was triggering. I know I snap very easily when I feel attacked and maybe the other person isn’t really attacking me; I’ve come to realize that’s my fragility talking, that I have to forgive myself when it happens and to explain my fragility to the other person, who most of the time will understand and also forgive me for snapping.
Forgiving and opening the heart to others can be so healing!
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It is always hard to be kind, and many people who are healing (myself included) can sometime lash out or be triggered by certain things. I think it’s a credit to you that you’ve realized your fragility is talking when you feel attacked — this is healing in action. Finding people who will hold you accountable but as part of their forgiveness can be difficult but they are around us and they are blessings that we can return when they need it too. Thank you so much for commenting!
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Wow! Thank you — I will check our your post to learn what it’s all about!
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Beautiful! It is so important to be patient with those who are going through the healing process. It can be a difficult and bumpy road, but is made so much easier when those closest to us give us the gift of their patience. Thank you for sharing!
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It’s definitely a bumpy road and we won’t always get things right but care and understanding (through patience) can be exactly what we or someone else needs. Thank you so much for reading!
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