Personal boundaries are extremely effective at maintaining our general well-being. They can guide us through daily life in a positive, affirming way; allowing us to take care of ourselves and focus on thriving.
Any principles we live by on a routine basis can be utilized to establish personal boundaries. Outlining how we wish to be treated and interacted with, including what we will/will not accept helps to determine our values; our sense of self; our priorities and what we require to feel safe.
Energy is contagious, positive and negative alike. I will forever be mindful of what and who I am allowing into my space. | Alex Elle
While boundaries frequently operate in protection of our psychological and emotional wellness from unreasonable demands, they can equally relate to our physical bodies. Touch of any kind remains a profoundly personal decision; it is our choice when, how and with whom we physically connect. All of which underpins the importance of drawing a line between what does and does not nourish our well-being in an appropriate and appreciated way.
Here are 5 things to consider when setting effective personal boundaries …
Before we can explain to others which situations, behaviours and actions feel uncomfortable, we need to recognize what they are. To promote self-awareness, we should pay attention to the patterns in our own thoughts, feelings and responses; including what bothers us about ourselves and other people. We should also take note of what our emotional triggers are and what upsets us or causes anxiety. From there we can recognise what we will no longer allow in our lives or give energy to — it can also improve how we deal with something negative if it occurs again.
Identifying what our values are is central to maintaining general welfare and happiness; as well as informing what personal boundaries we may want to make use of. Representing one of the most fundamental elements of how we choose to live; our values can establish what we pursue, what we believe in and how success is measured throughout life. In many ways, boundaries mirror our values because they’re often rooted in self-expression that highlights who we are, the energy we want to put out into the world and what we expect to be reflected back.
Part of our personal growth involves exploring new changes, opportunities and situational/perspective shifts. These types of adjustments are a normal part of life; what used to bring us purpose and peace may adapt and evolve over time. Regular self-reflection ensures we can reliably identify what encourages us to flourish; which includes maintaining, modifying or culling personal boundaries that no longer serve us well.
Direct And Assertive Communication
Being assertive and clear about what crosses a line is not up for debate; the limits we put in place do not require outside validation. Exploring our boundaries with someone who genuinely wants to recognize how to better support us is a net positive; if we choose to engage in this way. However, if someone expects us to justify our boundaries, they see them as negotiable — which they aren’t. Saying ‘no’ to anyone under these circumstances is a fully sufficient and actionable response that requires no further clarification.
Protecting Our Energy
Safeguarding our emotional and mental health is crucial when it comes to addressing situations, actions or behaviours that breach our boundaries. Taking time to decide when/how (or if) we’re going to tackle these infringements may help conserve vital stamina that’s needed to see us through bouts of emotional exhaustion. It’s reasonable, for example, to separate ourselves from specific people or circumstances that repeatedly overstep clearly communicated boundaries.
I am making the choice to go deeper into love, peace, joy, and grace right where I am. | Morgan Harper Nichols
Effectively managed and maintained personal boundaries can become part of a holistic self-care routine. Learning how to successfully deal with toxic people or anxious situations will ultimately reduce stress and bolster self-confidence; encouraging us to live intentionally and invite joy into each day.
Do you set personal boundaries? Are they part of your self-care routine? What boundaries do you need to work on?
Strategies For Setting Healthy Boundaries In The Workplace – Business Insider
A Guide To Setting Healthy Boundaries In Relationships – The Talkspace Voice