Rest your heart for a while, be kind to yourself. Let yourself feel enough to remember, enough to learn, but never too much for it to be so heavy it’s all you can carry. Take your time, take a breath, and hold on to what will come …
Let’s face it, saying that life has its ups and downs is putting it mildly. A more accurate descriptor would be that there are cycles of advancement and regression, reworking and awakening, unpleasantness and pleasure, even chaos and calm -- with many other experiences in-between -- that may make it difficult, at times, to show ourselves some kindness and understanding.
Life can be a storm you can see coming that you get to prepare for or it can be a sudden deluge that takes you by surprise and leaves you scrambling for cover. It can be clouds that are heavy and dark with ominous energy or it can be clear, fresh air with the promise of new sunshine.
We've all had those moments where we struggle to think of the right thing to say that offers comfort or support to someone facing a crisis. And if that crisis is a recent cancer diagnosis, it can be very hard to navigate between what is, and is not, helpful.
Advice comes in many forms. Some of it will be sought after and welcomed, while at other times it will be unsolicited and nonsensical. We can choose whether we implement this shared wisdom or whether we ignore it — but there will be a few times in our lives when the advice we receive becomes integral to how we live.