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Affirmations for When You Need to Vent Some Anger

Discover some affirmations that may help to diffuse feelings of anger and cultivate a sense of calm, embracing a mindset of positive self-talk.

We’ve all experienced feelings of anger; it’s a primal emotion that can stem from or be closely associated with other feelings such as frustration, injustice, fear, hurt, or even sadness. It can sometimes mask underlying vulnerabilities like insecurity or shame or bubble over into aggression, resentment, and hostility.

Understanding the nuances of anger and its interconnectedness with other emotions is crucial for managing it effectively and addressing how it impacts our mental and physical health. Repeated, unaddressed anger, for example, can trigger bouts of depression, anxiety, and interpersonal conflict. The stress hormones released when we experience anger can sometimes perpetuate cycles of physiological strain—so it’s good to be proactive about finding coping mechanisms to deal with it. 

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Using affirmations alone will not magically resolve all issues surrounding bouts of anger, but it can be an effective tool for managing emotional regulation and healing. Repeating positive, self-compassionate statements can serve to reframe negative thought patterns and cultivate a mindset of calmness and resilience. Over time, this practice can redirect focus away from triggers and towards constructive responses; building emotional intelligence that facilitates healthier reactions and nurturing inner peace.

The Purpose, Value and Benefits of Using Affirmations

Affirmations are repeated phrases we can say out loud, think privately to ourselves, or write down on encouraging post-it notes or in a journal for further exploration. The idea behind them is that they function as positive statements that reshape attitudes and behaviours to bolster self-empowerment, resilience, and emotional well-being. They can become a supportive mental health tool that harnesses the power of suggestion to reprogram our thought processes.

It’s through this repetition that affirmations penetrate the subconscious mind, challenging entrenched negative beliefs and replacing them with supportive alternatives. As neural pathways adapt to these affirming messages, we can begin to experience a mindset shift, embracing optimism and self-compassion (although it does take practice and a commitment to consistently make use of them). Moreover, affirmations have the possibility to leverage the principle of cognitive restructuring, a therapeutic technique that challenges distorted thinking. By persistently affirming positive beliefs, individuals dismantle cognitive distortions like catastrophizing or personalisation, promoting mental balance.

Ultimately, affirmations facilitate a profound transformation, empowering us to navigate challenges with confidence and grace. By aligning thoughts with intentions and aspirations, affirmations can unlock the inherent potential for growth and fulfilment, guiding us towards a life imbued with purpose and authenticity.

How To Effectively Make Use of Affirmations

The wonderful thing about introducing affirmations into a self-care routine is that it’s incredibly easy to do. There is no need for deep instruction, specialised equipment, or a requirement for it to be done perfectly. We simply select some key phrases and repeat them to ourselves—which can be done at any time and tailored to our particular needs. Once we start regularly incorporating them, even if we don’t at first fully believe in what we’re saying, they begin to work on our subconscious right away.

To make the best use of them, we can:

  • Define Our Goals: Identify areas of our lives where we seek improvement or change, whether it’s in relationships, careers, self-esteem, or health.
  • Select Positive Statements: Using present tense, choose concise and specific sentences that resonate with our goals and values.
  • Repeat Regularly: Say affirmations aloud or silently multiple times throughout the day, especially during moments of stress or self-doubt.
  • Visualise Success: Pairing affirmations with visualisation techniques can reinforce their impact. We should imagine ourselves embodying the qualities or achievements we are describing.
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30 Useful Affirmations To Help Manage and Resolve Anger

Listed below are some really useful and encouraging words of affirmation to help work through or deal with issues around feelings of anger (which is a completely valid emotion to experience). Anger can be exactly what is needed, and expressing it is okay to do, but if we feel we’re holding on to it or it’s beginning to negatively impact or interfere in our lives, we may need to learn to release it constructively.

Daily affirmations can be a tool to use when trying to manage tough emotions; however, it’s essential to recognise that they are not a magic fix for everything we may be experiencing. They can and should be used in conjunction with other self-care activities or mental health support, which can include professional help if and when required.

Here are thirty affirming statements to use when trying to let go of feelings associated with anger:

1. | I am confident I will find ways to release anger and negativity from my heart and mind.

2. | I am capable of choosing to respond calmly and rationally in frustrating situations.

3. | I forgive myself for any mistakes and let go of self-criticism.

4. | I release tension and embrace relaxation in my body and mind.

5. | I understand I do not need to control everything and trust in the flow of life.

6. | I am capable and resilient in the face of challenges.

7. | I will learn to let go of past hurts and instead focus on creating a positive future.

8. | I choose self-compassion and see the good in myself and others, even in difficult moments.

9. | I welcome patience and understanding, allowing space for growth and healing.

10. | I do not receive anything that causes harm or negativity.

11. | I can empower myself to handle any situation with grace and composure.

12. | I trust in my ability to overcome obstacles and emerge stronger.

13. | I am worthy of peace, and I create it within myself.

14. | I am learning to take responsibility for my reactions.

15. | I am resilient in the face of adversity, and I bounce back stronger than before.

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16. | I let go of perfectionism and embrace the beauty of imperfection.

17. | I am surrounded by love and support, even in challenging times.

18. | I am learning to be at peace with myself, and I radiate peace to those around me.

19. | I choose to see challenges as opportunities for growth and learning.

20. | I am grateful for the lessons that come with every experience, positive or negative.

21. | I am calm, centred, and grounded in the present moment.

22. | I let go of the need to be right and instead seek understanding and compromise.

23. | I am resilient, and I can bounce back from setbacks.

24. | I am capable of handling whatever comes my way with grace.

25. | I trust in the process of life and remain open to new possibilities.

26. | I embrace the freedom of letting go.

27. | I trust in my inner wisdom to guide me towards the right path.

28. | I release all anger and resentment, and I forgive myself and others.

29. | I forgive myself for holding onto anger, and I release it with love and compassion.

30. | I am able to release anger and embrace inner peace, allowing myself to live fully and joyfully.

The above affirmations can either be recited as they are or used as a base from which to build new positive statements. They may not reflect the exact situation that needs to be addressed, but each and every one of them is designed to help undertake a journey of healing and self-love—something all of us at one time will likely need.

In Summary

Using affirmations in this way can serve as an invaluable way to manage feelings of anger by offering a structured approach to reframe negative thought patterns and reinforce emotional resilience. When confronted with anger, we often need an effective outlet for redirecting focus and diffusing intense emotions. Making use of the affirming statements included here can help us respond more constructively to provocation and compassionately to inner unrest.

By acknowledging and validating our emotions without succumbing to negative thinking, we can introduce self-talk that builds up our self-worth and agency. Confidence in our ability to manage anger constructively can sometimes be hard to come by, but affirmations are a way to empower us to confront triggers with composure and clarity.

It’s all about creating a pathway towards emotional healing and personal growth, and that is most definitely worth doing.

Which affirmations resonated with you? Do you use affirmations to help yourself work through anger?


Further Info:

NAMI Helpline – a free, nationwide U.S. resource that offers experienced peer-support guidance and advice

FindAHelpline – global (by country) resources for free, confidential mental health support

Safe In Our World – a list of global (by country) LGBTQ+ mental health resources and support

34 thoughts on “Affirmations for When You Need to Vent Some Anger”

  1. Love these! I do these while doing my EFT tapping if I’m annoyed or angry and it really helps. Affirmations are so helpful for reframing.. Thanks for sharing this!!

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  2. What a great post Molly! I think we need this more than we may think or want to admit. Case in point, remodeling in my home at the moment has led me to frustration, and at times anger. I’ve had to take a step back several times and redirect my thoughts. Have a wonderful rest of week! 

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  3. These are all excellent affirmations. I will let you in on a little secret when I am feeling really mad I listen to Marilyn Manson. No one does rage better then him, and it always calms me down. I know sounds crazy.

    Is this you in the photo? Great snap!

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    1. I find these affirmations really useful (among other ways to release anger—which music can be a part of, so not crazy at all). The photos used throughout this post come from stock photo sites (the captions include where they came from), so none are of me, but they are great shots!

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  4. Great post and some excellent affirmations to keep in your back pocket for times of anger and frustration, which we all experience! We’ve had LOADS go wrong in our house lately, so I’m defo feeling it!

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  5. This is a really helpful post. Using affirmations in this way would be so calming and prevent over reactions etc. I love the affirmations that you suggested too.

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  6. I haven’t thought about using affirmations to manage anger before, but it does seem like a good way to confront our anger or frustration and not have it negatively impact us.

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  7. ”I am learning to be at peace with myself, and I radiate peace to those around me.”

    This one reminds me of something I tell myself every time I feel anger. I’d rather choose peace than be pissed lol. Thanks for sharing these.

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  8. I think everyone could use these for when things are starting to feel tough – feelings can easily run away with you otherwise! Thank you for sharing your affirmations, Molly. ❤️

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  9. I agree with you about positive affirmations for anger. It helps tremendously and it is calming for feeling better. Excellent post.

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