The ups and downs of life form part of the experiences that influence, shape and guide us. Challenges and disappointments — even the ones that set us adrift or scrambling for stable ground — can gift us the ability to learn and grow. What tests us the most often develops resiliency, strength and problem-solving skills that help us navigate our future.
Some of the most significant lessons we’re taught come from our struggles and hardships. And while this wisdom and grounding won’t offset the physical or mental difficulties that we need to work through to steady ourselves; they can provide fortification and creative solutions that come into use the next time we face something heavy.
Experiencing adversity undeniably shifts how we relate to ourselves and the people/situations around us; crises, setbacks and heartache change our perspectives and emotions. What weighs on us can feel burdensome or begin to strain our well-being — even when we’re on our way to discovering better times ahead (which will come, with time).

While developments like this can be tough to handle, many of these experiences end up bolstering us. We transform in a number of ways — sometimes because of subtle, almost undetectable adjustments that quietly begin working inside us before we’ve caught up and realized how beneficial they are. Through trials and tribulations, our emotional intelligence improves, we nurture lateral thinking that identifies creative solutions and we reinforce our compassion (especially for those enduring something similar). All of these represent strengths that end up encouraging us to heal.
This poem is for anyone who is questioning the value and insight that current hardships bring; there is a path forward no matter how murky or tough it seems. I’m not saying any of us should blindly hold on to positivity or that overcoming something will be quick and easy. It is, however, a heartfelt reminder that we can — and will — persevere. As André Malraux once declared, “You did not return from hell with empty hands.”
What challenges have you overcome; how have they changed you?
Further Info:
It takes courage to ask for help; if you need further support, know that you are valued, loved and not alone:
NAMI Helpline – a free, nationwide U.S. resource that offers experienced peer-support guidance and advice
CheckPoint – global (by country) resources for mental health support
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“They build a resiliency and wisdom That is forever ours to keep.” I LOVE this, Molly, you’ve perfectly encapsulated how we should view our life experiences, both bad and good!
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Thank you so much; I had hoped this messaging would come through so I am happy it did!
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Very interesting, I don’t read a lot of poems but my brother does. He would be interested in checking this. Thank you for sharing!
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Thank you for stopping by!
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This is a really great poem and it feels like it’s been written with my experience in life. Too many people don’t seem to understand that the hardships we’ve face can leave a mark on sense of self, even decades later. It’s a real privilege to not understand how that’s the case, because I can’t imagine anyone who’s not gone through some shit would think that way. I look forward to your next one
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I think you’re right; there are some who do not know how trauma, pain or hardship can impact someone (even generationally) — I’m glad I could put words to something for you in this way. Thanks so much for reading!
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I loved that poem, and the ending ❤️
I needed these reminders, thank you.
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I am so happy this resonated; thank you so much for reading.
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I love this poem. Sometimes we don’t even know how much we need to hear certain words, till we hear them, or read them. In this case.
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I am glad this connected with you in this way; thank you so much for reading!
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This is a lovely poem because we all go through hardships at some point and even when it feels like there is no end, we will persevere and grow as individuals.
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100% agree — we will all experience this and we can find a way forward (even the toughest times). Thanks for reading!
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I love poems that make the reader think and you have made me think! Thanks for sharing it.
Olivia |
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I am so happy you like it!
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I love this Molly! It’s positive and inspirational. Thanks for sharing this.
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Thank you so much!
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Beautiful poem, Molly!
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Thank you!
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I love this poem! It definitely gives a lot of motivation and inspiration for the new year!
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Thank you: I’m so glad this was helpful!
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What a beautifully written poem. Whenever I’m faced with difficulty, I always ask myself what it’s trying to teach me. This poem is such a great reminder that you’ll always come out on the other side stronger and there’s always a way through. Thank you for sharing Molly. Very touching words!
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I love the idea of asking ourselves what something is teaching us (that is a great way to think about it). Thank you so much for sharing that and for reading my poem!
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This is such a lovely poem and so inspiring. The language used can really be applied to all live experiences. Thank you for sharing.
Lauren
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I’m so happy that comes across as I wanted this poem to be something everyone can see themselves reflected in no matter they are experiencing/dealing with. Thank you so much for reading!
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Thank you for sharing your beautiful poem. Very inspirational. Our healing has already begun!
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I am so happy you enjoyed it; thank you so much for reading!
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Thanks for sharing this beautiful and wise poem. Love the ending there.
Corinne x
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Thanks for stopping by!
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Truly exceptional poem, I loved it and I also believe that the difficult times shape us and make us stronger. And if we can shift our view on them from being difficult to being a learning experience, we might even be able to go through them differently. But that is difficult. Thanks for sharing your wonderful and creative mind with us.
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Thank you so much; it is great to know that my poem is appreciated. You’re exactly right that difficulty can be a valuable learning experience and we can certainly shift how we respond to things.
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I’ve never related to a poem so much in my life. It perfectly sums the past year for me. My favorite lines are “they build a resiliency and wisdom that is forever ours to keep.” Thank you so much for sharing!
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I am so encouraged that this resonated with you so deeply; thank you so much for reading!
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This is a beautiful poem and so powerful, thanks for sharing this. Feel like I needed to read this today, without even realising x
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I am so happy this poem found you at the right time!
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Molly, what a beautiful poem. It gave me all the feels, especially right now when I am going through so much and feel so overwhelmed. Thank you for sharing it xx
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It seems like you read this at just the right moment — I hope it has helped in some way. Sending you love!
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Love love love this, Molly! January/start of the year can be such a tough time and this is exactly what some people need to read/hear ❤
Lynn |
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I am so happy you liked this; thank you so much for stopping by to read it!
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This is nice I had to read the poem three times.
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Thank you!
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What a beautiful poem and post. I feel like this one hits right at home with my own situation I shared on my blog about our family trauma. Thank you for sharing this. I plan to share your poem image, but will link and tag you in the posts.
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I am so glad this poem resonated and that you want to share it (thank you for doing this and link/tagging, etc). I hope my poem reaches anyone who needs it.
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I love this poem. I agree that things that challenge us often make us stronger and resilient,
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Thank you so much for reading!
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This is a beautiful poem. I agree that struggles in life can transform you into a better person. I’m currently going through some challenging tasks at work and it has helped me become stronger and more resilient.
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I’m sorry to hear about the challenges you’re encountering at work; that can be a very stressful situation to navigate! I hope things improve for you soon!
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Beautiful poem and window into the waves of healing. Thank you for sharing.
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I love that expression ‘waves of healing’; it’s a perfect description!
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