The healing potential of self-compassion is something we should embrace; fortifying authentic self-acceptance, mental well-being, and emotional resilience.
Self-compassion is the practice of treating ourselves with thoughtfulness, appreciation and acceptance, especially during setbacks or times of struggle. It involves acknowledging difficulties, imperfections, and limitations without judgement; it’s a chance to offer ourselves the same care and support that we would give to a friend in similar circumstances.
Within it are key components like self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness that involve actively being gentle with ourselves as we journey through life. Self-kindness offers a way to show empathy where there is overly harsh self-criticism; our common humanity reminds us we are not alone because of our connection through shared experiences; and mindfulness lets us find greater emotional balance and perspective. Together, these cultivate a nurturing and supportive relationship with ourselves, promoting resilience and well-being.
Self-compassion is much needed in today’s fast-paced and stressful world. The demands of modern life can generate relentless pressure, triggering a risk of burnout, anxiety, and depression. It’s one small tool to help us navigate all these challenges with increased resilience and self-care. We need to nurture a healthy relationship with ourselves that fosters a sense of inner peace, stability, and strength.
Practicing self-compassion can cultivate a profound sense of mental well-being and emotional ease. It can work wonders at reducing stress levels by providing a buffer against self-criticism, perfectionism, and the weight of other difficulties. Arming ourselves with coping mechanisms that empower us to move forward with kindness and confidence is never a waste of time. We can cultivate a supportive inner dialogue, embrace shortcomings, learn from failures, and generate a sense of personal growth and self-acceptance.
So how can we put self-compassion into action?
There are several approaches we can take to bring more self-love into our everyday existence. First, we must be prepared to acknowledge our stresses, setbacks, and struggles with honest, gentle kindness. We are allowed to show ourselves the same friendship and understanding we share with those around us. Saying words of comfort and encouragement is not something we only give to others; they are for us too.
Engaging in mindfulness practices that observe our thought patterns and emotions (without attachment or criticism) can help us identify what we need to work on and implement. Self-compassion is also about setting and prioritising boundaries that allow us to protect and nurture what builds us up rather than what tears us down. Finally, cultivating gratitude for our strengths and accomplishments and celebrating progress rather than dwelling on perceived failures creates an avenue towards a compassionate mindset.
Showing ourselves love can feel awkward, unwarranted, or undeserved, but that is not a reflection of the truth. We all deserve mindful self-compassion that provides emotional balance and stability. Life is not a smooth ride; nobody travels through it completely unscathed. What we can do, though, is ensure that we emerge from each difficult circumstance or obstacle more durable, adaptable, and ready to move forward with care and courage.
How do you show yourself self-compassion? Are you kind to yourself?
Further Info:
NAMI Helpline – a free, nationwide U.S. resource that offers experienced peer-support guidance and advice
FindAHelpline – global (by country) resources for free, confidential mental health support
Safe In Our World – a list of global (by country) LGBTQ+ mental health resources and support
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I completely agree with what you said about self-compassion, it is definitely well-needed in these stressful times! This is a lovely poem too x
Lucy
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I am so pleased to hear you enjoyed the poem, and that embracing self-compassion resonated in this way!
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I always have reminders every day for self love and self compassion. Informative post and love the poem.
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That is great that you have daily reminders to encourage you; this is a very helpful practice to have!
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Love this, so beautifully put. Self-compassion is such a big driver in our lives and too many people underestimate its power to push us towards out dreams. Wish there was a tap that would allow people to fill up their self-compassion stocks when they’re struggling x
Teresa Maria | Outlandish Blog
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I love the idea of filling up our self-compassion in this way, it would be so wonderful if it could be done in this way. What a different world we would probably find ourselves living in (and contributing to)!
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I have had problems with showing myself self-compassion, so this was a nice reminder! I love the poem as well, I think it’s beautiful.
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I find this hard too, and often default to overly harsh self-talk (which does nothing to help). I hope this poem serves as a reminder to all of us who struggle with this.
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I used to work with someone who always said we’d never speak to a friend the way we speak to ourselves, and I think self-compassion is a big part of this. Lovely post, Molly. 🙂
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I agree with this idea 100% and believe it’s a really good way to think about it.
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This is so insightful! I am so easy to criticize my failures when I would never do this to someone else. Thanks for sharing this Molly!
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It’s natural for us all to default to negative self-talk so it can feel like an uphill battle to counter this; but it’s worth doing!
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Showing yourself kindness and compassion is so important, this post is a much needed reminder that I need to do that more often! Thank you for sharing this! 🙂
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I hope you do try to show yourself more self-compassion (I’m working on this too); it helps to be kind to ourselves.
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I sometimes find it hard to go easy on myself because both the struggles that I’m currently facing and the criticism that I’m receiving from a toxic family member can become overwhelming, but I learned to appreciate myself in my highs, lows and everything in between thanks to therapy. It really got easier at least on a mental health level. ❤
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It can be so very difficult to focus on self-compassion when there is any kind of toxicity in our lives (especially if it’s persistent, and coming from family). It is good that you are finding some way through it, and I wish you continued strength and support as you carry on with this!
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Beautiful poem Molly. It’s important to be kind to ourselves. Whenever I find myself forgetting that, I ask myself how I would handle the situation if it were a friend or a loved one. It always puts things into perspective. Thank you for sharing!
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I have started doing this too, and flipping it to that perspective is quite transformative.
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Your thoughtful questions ignite a reflection on self-compassion, a journey I’ve recently embarked on. It’s transformed my life, prompting me to prioritize kindness towards myself, especially during challenging times.
Your blogpost beautifully resonated with me, and I savoured every moment of it. Here’s to celebrating Mental Health Awareness Month with gratitude 🤍
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Thank you for such a lovely response to this. It can be difficult sometimes to talk about self-compassion but it is such a central part of our mental and emotional well-being, I hope more people open themselves up to this.
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Self-compassion is so important, and I love your poem as it is a great reminder that we should be kind to ourselves.
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I know so many of us need this reminder so I was happy to share it. Thank you so much for reading!
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Acknowledging our limitations without judgement and working on coping to empower ourselves is crucial for overall wellbeing. Inspiring post!
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100% — there are so many ways we can welcome self-compassion in our lives. Thanks for reading!
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